ABOUT JUDY GRAY
APSATS-Certified Betrayal Trauma Coach + Founder of Grayview Coaching
Hi, I’m Judy.
I’m an APSATS-certified betrayal trauma coach who has lived this work from the inside out. Nearly a decade ago, my own life was shaken by relational betrayal during a season when I was raising four young children — one of them a newborn. I know the fog. I know the hypervigilance. I know the grief of trying to hold a family while your world tilts beneath your feet.
And I also know: this is survivable.
And you are not alone.
Growing up, if you asked me what I wanted to be, I would’ve said something safe and sweet — a teacher, a guidance counselor, maybe even a dolphin trainer.
Betrayal trauma coach? Not even on the map.
There was no universe in which my childhood self could’ve imagined the kind of heartbreak that would later shape my life’s work.
But life hands us assignments we didn’t apply for…
and sometimes they become the very places where purpose is born.
Almost ten years ago, my life cracked open in ways I did not see coming.
I have walked through profound relational rupture.
I have rebuilt myself from the inside out.
I have done the personal work so my story empowers my purpose, not my pain.
At the time, I was a young mom with four kids — sleep-deprived, terrified, and trying to understand a reality I never asked for.
The loneliness, the confusion, the internal chaos… it was a full-body experience.
And from the very first hours of my own D-Day, something in me knew:
I would not let this destroy me. This story would be used for good.
What I Believe About Healing
Truth is oxygen.
You cannot heal in confusion.
You cannot heal around
half-truths. Clarity is not optional — it’s medicine.
You don’t have to choose between faith and boundaries.
You can be compassionate and protective. Brokenhearted and wise. Hopeful and cautious. (Two things can be true at once.)
Your story deserves a safe witness.
Someone who sees the whole picture, holds the weight with you, and never tells you to “just pray more” or “stop overreacting.”
You are not here to be anyone’s collateral damage.
Your healing matters.
Your heart matters.
Your future matters.
Why Women Work with Me
Because I’ve lived this.
Not theoretically. Not academically.
In my real life, in real time, with babies on my hip and a future
I wasn’t sure I’d survive.
Because I’m APSATS-certified.
Partner-sensitive, trauma-informed, truth-centered support
that protects your safety — not his comfort.
Because my clients feel seen, safe, and deeply understood.
I don’t rush your healing.
I don’t minimize your pain.
I don’t sugarcoat the path.
But I will walk it with you.
If You’re Here… It’s Not By Accident
You may be searching for answers. Or a lifeline.
Or someone who finally says, “I see you. And what you’re carrying is real.”
You don’t have to navigate this alone. And you don’t have to have everything figured out today.
Take the next right step.
Book a free 30-minute Clarity Call — a safe space to breathe, cry, ask questions, and get grounded.